Wednesday, July 27, 2005

How Old Are We

I have a husband and 3 children. My first child created a whole new set of relatives in our families. Aunts, uncles, grandparents, great aunts, and great grandmothers. My friends live in all different areas with varying size families as well. We own a home and 2 cars. My husband has a title company. I had a nice corporate job for several years until my second child was born. We are involved in shul politics.

I have adults who I would prefer to call Mr and Mrs asking me to refer to them by their first names. A friend of our had his 40th birthday this past year. The conversations with friends range from new children and carpool to how to dealing with sick parents. We have a few friends that are divorced and some that are bordering on it. There are scandals in the community which people our own age are involved in. People are moving from starter homes to life long homes. Many of our friend's kids are already in sleepaway camp and approaching bar mitzvah age. When did this all happen?

In my head I'm still 18. I still watch reruns of 90210, dawson's creek, and melrose place. I still relate to dating stories of my friend's siblings. My favorite lunch is baked ziti from a pizza shop over any salad or soup from any sit down restaurant. Ideally I would love to eat chips all day and not diet but unfortunately all of that has caught up with me. I would like for my job to be a personal shopper at malls for people or to be a movie critic. I'm truly amazed at how quickly life passes.

Friday, July 22, 2005

A restaurant story

My husband comes home a little earlier on Fridays. We went out to lunch at our favorite restaurant. We love the food but hate the service. We wanted more water but ended up finishing our meal before even getting the waitress's attention. At the end of the meal my husband called the cashier on his cell phone and asked her to please bring some water to the corner table.

Thursday, July 21, 2005

Dougies

A new Dougies opened up in the five towns. We went there on opening night. There was no party, we just went to support our friends that own it. Same good food we know and love. A larger menu than what I remember. Warm ambiance. The service was great. It's a wonderful family place. I don't know that it's the kind of food that I love on a regular basis but it's great for events (superbowl). The owner says that down the road he is considering sports nights and other themed events there which would also be a great draw. I highly recommend trying it.

Blogging World

After reading a bunch of people's blogs, I am not sure that I'm cut out for the blogging world. Currently my thoughts vary between the extremely heavy issues or meaningless mundane things. After all the energy I exert on my family these days, the only thing left that my brain seems to allow for is stupidity like whether Jude Law can have a stable love life. The venue for many blogs seems to be community topics, politics, or what's going on in the world. I don't know that I currently have the capacity to care about any of these issues. I'm amazed at how absorbed people are with these topics that don't directly affect them. I love the personal stories I read. It makes Mirty's writing so exceptional and I don't even know her. Maybe I'm just all about people and not issues at all. Maybe it has nothing to with my energy levels. Regardless, I can't express myself nearly as well as Mirty and my creativity levels don't compare to airs. I think I'll still keep writing as it's a great release for me although I will try and keep it light. And I'll keep reading as it's more entertaining than TV. After all most of the blogs I read are written by friends. It's a great way to keep in touch and find out what's happening with people.

Tuesday, July 19, 2005

Bathroom Dilemma

When a baby's bum is exposed to the air do you think it makes him go to the bathroom? Everytime I change my son's diaper he makes again right after.

True Love in Hollywood

Do you think that folk's in Hollywood can really have an honest love life or marriage when they're job entails kissing and sleeping with some very beautiful people. I read this in the post this morning
http://breakingnews.nypost.com/dynamic/stories/J/JUDE_LAW_APOLOGY?SITE=NYNYP&SECTION=ENTERTAINMENT&TEMPLATE=DEFAULT&CTIME=2005-07-18-21-40-38
and couldn't help thinking how difficult it must be. As you can see I'm not really proficient in linking nicely. I apologize for the ugliness. It also intrigued me that Jude Law's affair made breaking news. I mean who really cares besides me.

Monday, July 18, 2005

Daily Highlights

My daily highlights include:

When my kids board the bus or go off to school or camp (especially on Mondays)

My morning coffee uninterrupted.

My dad's daily phonecall.

Su Doku time.

When my kids walk through the door from school or camp.

When my husband walks through the door after work.

The few minutes after the bath when the kids are still clean.

Shema Time in bed with kids when I learn about their day.

Occasionally dinner out with the hub.

Full five hour intervals of sleep at night depending on my baby.

Friday, July 15, 2005

A Five Year Old's Phonecall

My 5 year old only knows how to dial one phone number. Every morning, day after day, he calls my parents because he can. He used to speak to my mom every morning and now he dials, says hi, and hands me the phone. The other morning I heard him call my mother and then nothing. I asked him if he spoke to bubby when he called her. He said "No mom, she was unable to come to the phone right now."

Thursday, July 14, 2005

My Father My Friend

Thanks for all the replys. I guess Air's plug really helped. How can I top "To Trim or Not To Trim?" I find myself with a lot of downtime in the car these days with a lot of time to think. My father fell ill a little over a year ago. The diagnosis was not good. The doctors at the local hospital didn't give him long to live. We quickly shifted to a top hospital in the city. While the diagnosis there was not much better at least they were willing to try and help.

Up until then I had gone to visit my parents fairly regularly. Once a month isn't bad as they are a 2 hour trip away and I have a family of my own. My obligatory visits worked out even better for me as my grandmother, brother, and aunt all live in Lakewood as well. We covered a lot territory with each trip. When my father got sick, after spending everyday there for 2 weeks until a regular setup was worked out with him, I started going regularly to the city or Lakewood at least once a week. I figured I would do my Bikur cholim and visit my family at the same time. Well, I got a lot more than I bargained for.

While I don't know if it's the better hospital, great doctor, davening, tehillim, or the many rabbeim that my husband gets brachos for him from, my father is baruch hashem doing exceptionally well for his situation. I'm sure that it's a combination of it all with g-d guiding it. In the last year I managed to spend more time with my dad than I have in the 10 years before. Not only do I see him but it is fun time. It's not the bedridden sick time which we had initially anticipated. He is able to go to lunch and shop in between treatments and feels well and is totally functional. We are extremely lucky to say the least. When we talk, as he thinks like I do, or I should say I think like he does, we tend to finish each other's sentences. He appreciates stories about my kids more than my friends do as he is their grandfather. He has become a great friend and confidante especially because all the protocol of fathering and daughtering is mostly out of the way.

My point in all of this is to tell you all not to take your parents for granted. While things might seem normal or maybe not, take advantage of the time you have with them. Things can turn bad in the blink of an eye and you don't want to wait for that to appreciate anyone. Not only can parents make great babysitters, they can also make great friends.

To Trim or Not to Trim

After reading and reading and reading other people's blogs for the last few days, I decided to venture out on my own. not quite sure what i'll be writing about but I got the itch so please join me for some good reads and some not such good reads.

Yesterday, my husband got a haircut which he does pretty frequently. He gets one about every 2 weeks and is training my boys to do the same. For my boys this isn't such a problem. They have enought hair coming in that compensates for the short cut and it proves to be a great time filler for them on Sundays when we can't figure out what to do. My hub on the other hand is receeding a bit as most men in their thirties are. He's not as bald as a friend of mine who once told me his head was groing taller than his hair but there's no need to enhance the receeding. These frequent haircuts tend to make him look like he has less hair than he does. I don't think he should be trimming as often as he does. He prefers the quick trims as he thinks they make him look neater and more professional. Any thoughts?